Who To Invite To Your Wedding
Let’s start with a little history; the first recorded evidence of marriage ceremonies uniting 2 people dates from about 2350 B.C., in Mesopotamia. Over the next several hundred years, marriage evolved into a widespread institution embraced by the ancient Hebrews, Greeks, and Romans. But back then, marriage had little to do with love or with religion - more to do with securing heirs and a Husband could give back his Wife if she failed to deliver offspring ( I know right?!?!).
Thankfully love eventually entered the equation (after religion) and, skipping ahead, up until the end of WW11 wedding celebrations tended to take place in the Bride’s home - everything was dependent on the means of her family, from the food to the entertainment.
Nowadays of course, weddings are held in all manner of locations; from beaches to church halls, grand hotels to marquees and everywhere in between but the one thing that every wedding has in common is the eternal dilemma of who to invite.
Unless you’re seriously minted then you won’t be able to invite every member of your family and circle of friends and acquaintances.
That means compromises have to be sought, people crossed off and family politics rears it’s very ugly head. Must you invite great aunty Susan who hasn’t spoken to you since she discovered you regifted the banana plant she got you for your 21st birthday 15 years ago?
What about cousin Billy who starts a fight with his own shadow or that girl who works in the office and does nothing but bitch about everyone….
The first thing to remember here is that it’s YOUR wedding day - it’s about YOU celebrating YOUR love and it should reflect YOUR relationship and personalities. Easier said than done, I know, but try to keep that in mind when you decide where you want to get married and how many people you want to share it with.
If you’re happy eloping with just the kids, then do it. If you want just your close family and friends in a pretty garden setting then do it…the people who truly care about you will be happy for you and understand the decision you have made. If they don’t then why should you spend your hard earned money feeding them!
As soon as you’ve decided on the where and the number of guests you can afford (or accommodate) you need to consider things like kids (do you want them there, if not make it clear from the start) and if you are inviting them you’ll need to consider how to entertain them through the day!
And then the fun begins…taking all these points into consideration you might still feel a little overwhelmed…so we’ve found this rather cool little chart on Pinterest to help you work out who you should, and shouldn’t, invite
It’s over to you now - let us know if you have any top tips on who to invite or have any stories to share!